Don’t forget the haters….

There is always someone. Often there is more than one. And the more success an happiness you appear to have, the number grows. It’s such a sad concept – to hate on someone because they are happy. It truely confuses me. I have always celebrated others happiness and success. I have used their stories to inspire, motivate to propel myself forward. I don’t use it as stepping stones so stomp on them so I feel more adequate. 

 I have encountered a number of haters along my journey this far…… and there may be more, I don’t know. And I titled this blog ‘don’t forget the haters’ and there is no mistake there. I don’t think they deserve being forgotten. Clearly they feel so deeply inadequate because their life is different to mine, that they need to project their negativity so they feel better. What a sad state of affairs that is! 

I feel an element of pity toward such people, and I genuinely hope that the can progress within themselves to another level. A state where they don’t need to put others down to build their own self confidence. Where they can appreciate others hard work and effort, and the negative thoughts don’t flow into their minds. 

The other thing that I do when I’m faced with these sort I’d people is i make it my mission to prove them wrong. I have dealt with them when throughout my life, and there is nothing so sweet as standing infront of them having done what they said I couldn’t do.  

I saw this quote once, and it has stuck with me ever since.

People who hate aren’t happy, and people who are happy don’t hate.

So I guess the point I’m making is that when people are whinging about you, it’s not about you, its actually about them. Don’t let it get you down, and don’t waste precious energy stewing on what’s been said and how your going to deal with it. The most it should do is drive you To succeed.

Thanks for taking the time to read and I look forward to hearing your thoughts in the comments or sent me a message 🙂

Kirsty x

It’s an ongoing journey 

So far I have shared with you how I have progressed over the last few years. But that doesn’t mean I’m finished by any stretch of the imagination. Man do I have bad days, weeks and even months.

Take this past month for example. I have been feeling like I have been running on a hamster wheel which is slowly getting faster and faster. My day job was busy, My home life was busier, I was trying to work on my business and it felt like I couldn’t come up for air. I got to the end of June exhausted, snappy, and feeling like I was completely out of control. I started to let the voice of my fears speak louder than the music of my beliefs. I began down the path of self doubt and negativity. 

It happens to the best of us, and it’s an ongoing work in progress to maintain our outlook, positivity and beliefs. They don’t maintain themselves. So what happened? Why did I begin to reverse my mindset and let my fears take over? Upon reflection, I stopped taking care of myself. I stopped making ‘my time’ important, and began prioritising EVERYTHING else.

For a number of reasons, the time that I use to gather my thoughts, plan for the day, work on my personal development, and exercise time were slipping away. It happened rather slowly, until I didn’t have a single moment left to give! It was only then that I realised what had happened, and also how valuable these times are to me. I tend to fit these moments into the nooks and crannies of my day. At this point in time, big blocks of time is not really an option on the regular. I listen to podcasts in the car to and from work. I exercise an my lunch break. I often write down my thoughts whilst nursing my baby, send emails and various other tasks for myself while he naps. But these times were being absorbed by the needs of those around me. I found that I wasn’t doing a good job of anything.

I’m all for helping others, but the month of June was a less than welcome reminder that if I don’t take care of myself first, then it’s awfully difficult to serve those who need you! It’s incredible how fast i was able to turn my mindset back around again when I realised the problem. I immediately pulled back, so I could reset. 

I decided to do something that makes me feel good, and where there’s never any guilt. I put my phone aside for the day, and took my baby on a mama/son date. We went on a train ride, played with baby farm animals, had a delicious lunch, played hide and seek through the trees and ran through the autumn leaves. My why. My reason for being on this crazy hamster wheel in the first place. And man did it feel good! I took the rest of the weekend to ENJOY those around me. I saw who I wanted to and spent time doing things that made me happy. 

So I began this month refreshed and ready to tackle the world again. I rescheduled my time, brought my focus back in, and here I am. Back on track. My point is, is that you can’t do your best to serve others if you’re not taking great care of yourself. Put yourself first and the rest will follow.

I’m looking forward to hearing your thoughts in the comments. Happy reading!

K xx

You must believe

Lately, I have noticed that there is a huge lack in belief in our society. Im not saying EVERYONE I encounter lacks belief, but I find a disturbing number do. I’m not referring to religion in this case, I’m talking about belief in yourself. The knowing that we have a kids that we can do anything we want to. The deep-seeded faith in ourselves that tells us we are capable of whatever we put our minds to. I see it with patients a work, at the gym, in my business, at the playground and even at the shops! People seem to be all too happy to tell you what the can’t do, could never do, or wished they could but can’t for whatever reason.

I reflect on my life this far and the path I have traveled and I think ‘what if I only did what I KNEW I could do?’ That thought scares me immensely. One of my biggest fears is to stop learning, to stop growing and to stop progressing. And that’s exactly what would have happened if I had stayed within my comfort zone.

And then I asked myself ‘WHY did I make the decisions and take the risks that I did?’. I thought long and hard about this….. and my answer? I have done what I have because I knew what I wanted. And I knew the only way I was going to be able to get there was if I got up and took action. 

Don’t get me wrong, I have faced some challenges over the years. I have faced obstacles….. physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual. I’ve been bedridden in hospital for months at a time, I’ve had a broken heart, I’ve made bad choices, I’ve made good choices and I’ve had successes. There one thing that got me through to where I am now is the fact that I knew what I wanted and I believed I could do it. There were moments of doubt, and those moments were generally attached to high levels of emotion, but when it came down to it, I believed I was capable of getting what I wanted. And I was right.

I don’t know where the culture of ‘I can’t’ began, but it is one that we need to change. And we can start by believing in ourselves and the teaching our children that they CAN do anything they put their mind to. I believe we are all destined for greatness. We are born and we die. It’s up to us to make the middle part amazing. Henry Ford hit the nail on the head:

‘Weather you think you can or weather you think you can’t, you’re right.’

Let’s build each other and yourselves up this week. Be encouraging and support, but most of all start believing!

I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments or send me an email.

Thanks for reading! 

K x