Don’t forget the haters….

There is always someone. Often there is more than one. And the more success an happiness you appear to have, the number grows. It’s such a sad concept – to hate on someone because they are happy. It truely confuses me. I have always celebrated others happiness and success. I have used their stories to inspire, motivate to propel myself forward. I don’t use it as stepping stones so stomp on them so I feel more adequate. 

 I have encountered a number of haters along my journey this far…… and there may be more, I don’t know. And I titled this blog ‘don’t forget the haters’ and there is no mistake there. I don’t think they deserve being forgotten. Clearly they feel so deeply inadequate because their life is different to mine, that they need to project their negativity so they feel better. What a sad state of affairs that is! 

I feel an element of pity toward such people, and I genuinely hope that the can progress within themselves to another level. A state where they don’t need to put others down to build their own self confidence. Where they can appreciate others hard work and effort, and the negative thoughts don’t flow into their minds. 

The other thing that I do when I’m faced with these sort I’d people is i make it my mission to prove them wrong. I have dealt with them when throughout my life, and there is nothing so sweet as standing infront of them having done what they said I couldn’t do.  

I saw this quote once, and it has stuck with me ever since.

People who hate aren’t happy, and people who are happy don’t hate.

So I guess the point I’m making is that when people are whinging about you, it’s not about you, its actually about them. Don’t let it get you down, and don’t waste precious energy stewing on what’s been said and how your going to deal with it. The most it should do is drive you To succeed.

Thanks for taking the time to read and I look forward to hearing your thoughts in the comments or sent me a message 🙂

Kirsty x

It’s an ongoing journey 

So far I have shared with you how I have progressed over the last few years. But that doesn’t mean I’m finished by any stretch of the imagination. Man do I have bad days, weeks and even months.

Take this past month for example. I have been feeling like I have been running on a hamster wheel which is slowly getting faster and faster. My day job was busy, My home life was busier, I was trying to work on my business and it felt like I couldn’t come up for air. I got to the end of June exhausted, snappy, and feeling like I was completely out of control. I started to let the voice of my fears speak louder than the music of my beliefs. I began down the path of self doubt and negativity. 

It happens to the best of us, and it’s an ongoing work in progress to maintain our outlook, positivity and beliefs. They don’t maintain themselves. So what happened? Why did I begin to reverse my mindset and let my fears take over? Upon reflection, I stopped taking care of myself. I stopped making ‘my time’ important, and began prioritising EVERYTHING else.

For a number of reasons, the time that I use to gather my thoughts, plan for the day, work on my personal development, and exercise time were slipping away. It happened rather slowly, until I didn’t have a single moment left to give! It was only then that I realised what had happened, and also how valuable these times are to me. I tend to fit these moments into the nooks and crannies of my day. At this point in time, big blocks of time is not really an option on the regular. I listen to podcasts in the car to and from work. I exercise an my lunch break. I often write down my thoughts whilst nursing my baby, send emails and various other tasks for myself while he naps. But these times were being absorbed by the needs of those around me. I found that I wasn’t doing a good job of anything.

I’m all for helping others, but the month of June was a less than welcome reminder that if I don’t take care of myself first, then it’s awfully difficult to serve those who need you! It’s incredible how fast i was able to turn my mindset back around again when I realised the problem. I immediately pulled back, so I could reset. 

I decided to do something that makes me feel good, and where there’s never any guilt. I put my phone aside for the day, and took my baby on a mama/son date. We went on a train ride, played with baby farm animals, had a delicious lunch, played hide and seek through the trees and ran through the autumn leaves. My why. My reason for being on this crazy hamster wheel in the first place. And man did it feel good! I took the rest of the weekend to ENJOY those around me. I saw who I wanted to and spent time doing things that made me happy. 

So I began this month refreshed and ready to tackle the world again. I rescheduled my time, brought my focus back in, and here I am. Back on track. My point is, is that you can’t do your best to serve others if you’re not taking great care of yourself. Put yourself first and the rest will follow.

I’m looking forward to hearing your thoughts in the comments. Happy reading!

K xx

You must believe

Lately, I have noticed that there is a huge lack in belief in our society. Im not saying EVERYONE I encounter lacks belief, but I find a disturbing number do. I’m not referring to religion in this case, I’m talking about belief in yourself. The knowing that we have a kids that we can do anything we want to. The deep-seeded faith in ourselves that tells us we are capable of whatever we put our minds to. I see it with patients a work, at the gym, in my business, at the playground and even at the shops! People seem to be all too happy to tell you what the can’t do, could never do, or wished they could but can’t for whatever reason.

I reflect on my life this far and the path I have traveled and I think ‘what if I only did what I KNEW I could do?’ That thought scares me immensely. One of my biggest fears is to stop learning, to stop growing and to stop progressing. And that’s exactly what would have happened if I had stayed within my comfort zone.

And then I asked myself ‘WHY did I make the decisions and take the risks that I did?’. I thought long and hard about this….. and my answer? I have done what I have because I knew what I wanted. And I knew the only way I was going to be able to get there was if I got up and took action. 

Don’t get me wrong, I have faced some challenges over the years. I have faced obstacles….. physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual. I’ve been bedridden in hospital for months at a time, I’ve had a broken heart, I’ve made bad choices, I’ve made good choices and I’ve had successes. There one thing that got me through to where I am now is the fact that I knew what I wanted and I believed I could do it. There were moments of doubt, and those moments were generally attached to high levels of emotion, but when it came down to it, I believed I was capable of getting what I wanted. And I was right.

I don’t know where the culture of ‘I can’t’ began, but it is one that we need to change. And we can start by believing in ourselves and the teaching our children that they CAN do anything they put their mind to. I believe we are all destined for greatness. We are born and we die. It’s up to us to make the middle part amazing. Henry Ford hit the nail on the head:

‘Weather you think you can or weather you think you can’t, you’re right.’

Let’s build each other and yourselves up this week. Be encouraging and support, but most of all start believing!

I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments or send me an email.

Thanks for reading! 

K x

Realising my fears

My first blog post last week was a very general overview of the last 10 years of my life. Although it wasn’t very deep, I felt that it will place perspective on my future posts. 

I want this blog page to come from my heart, so I don’t really have a plan for what I’m going to write about until I sit down to write it. And today is no different. As I begin to write, my thoughts take me to the time I realised my fears. Now that may sound a little strange to you, but I’m not talking bout discovering for the first time I realised I’m horrified of spiders, heights, or roller coasters. I mean the fears I didn’t know I had. The ones that surface when you get pushed out of your comfort zone.

When I first made the decision to pursue my new business opportunity in mid 2016, I had no idea what I was in for. I was completely unaware that it also meant I was about to begin a personal journey of growth and development in order for it to work. I have always been very practical and logical when I have decided to chase a goal – figure out what needed to be done to achieve the goal, break it down into tasks, and then do it! Easy right? Well I approached this project the same way. I did the research, worked out what needed to be done, then stopped….. this was the first time I’d looked at a list and found there were things on the list I really didn’t want to do! I FELT UNCOMFORTABLE.

It took me a little while to understand why the list made me feel this way. So I did some more research into what was truly required for me to run this business successfully. I realised it boiled down to two things. The first was I was afraid of failing. I didn’t want to invest in anything that wouldn’t work. Pretty simple. Not an unusual fear when looking at a new venture, and I was familiar with this fear -I felt it before ALMOST EVERY exam at uni. I knew I could deal with this one, I’d done it before. There was something else. Something bigger than the fear of failing. I realised it was the fear of what other people would think. What they would think about the business, and about what they would think if I failed.

This realisation struck me pretty hard as I have always prided myself on not caring too much about what others think. I didn’t always have the best time at school, and I had developed the ability to ‘not care’ about what others thought of me. I was never in the cool group, and was considered to be a nerd, and I’d learnt to move forward without it bothering me.

So why was this different? Why was this causing so much discomfort? It then occurred to me that I was selectively ok with not caring about what people thought of me. Putting myself out in the public eye, in a new industry, with a new concept was not part of my selection! And heaven forbid I failed!!

I knew, that to move forward with this business, I needed to get comfortable – fast! I wasn’t sure where to start, so I turned to other successful business leaders for answers. I listened to YouTube videos from Tony Robbins, Les Brown and other motivators as well as audio books from other greats that had succeeded in businesses like mine. This took my on an incredible journey of self discovery and growth. I took notes, followed calls to action, I cried and I laughed. I gave myself daily tasks that would take me out of my comfort zone. 

I have realised that to move forward in life, to follow my dreams, and create the life I want for my family, I am going to learn to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. If I stay in my comfort zone for the rest of my life, I am not going to be able to realise my dreams. My desire for change and progress needs to be greater than my fears. This is a daily challenge for me, but I’m ready to take the bull by the horns. Somedays, are easier than others, but little by little, I’m moving towards my goals.

I would love to hear what makes you uncomfortable? Are you comfortable being uncomfortable? Please share your thoughts, challenges, and how you overcome your fears.

Thanks for reading 

K x

Finding my way……

This is my first blog post, but I have been think about writing one for a little while. My like has changed so dramatically over the last 10 years, and I feel like if I can help someone or encourage someone in some way, then telling my story may be worth it. This is an overview about then till now.

Let me start by introducing myself. I am a wife, mother, stepmother, physiotherapist and an entrepreneur. I love clean eating, exercise, spending time with my family and friends, travelling, working on myself, my profession and my business, which leads to my love of serving others.

My journey to when I am now has been interesting to say the least. Over 10 years ago, I was running a restaurant for my then partner. I loved working with people, but I certainly was not living any sort of dream. I was working my guts out for someone else, and I knew there was another way! I had begun uni in 2000, but really had no idea what I was doing, so went to hospitality. But I was getting itchy feet. I felt that time was getting away from me and I needed to follow my passion…… which was…… I had no idea! But I knew I needed a change. So I picked up the TAFE short courses guide, closed my eyes, opened the booklet and stabbed the page with a pen. I figured the only way I was going to work out what to do next was to try things out until I found a fit! I landed on massage therapy. So off I went, a waitress with no clue to a short course on massage therapy- and fell in love!

Massage ticked all my boxes! It allowed me to continue to work with people, I wouldn’t be stuck behind a desk, it was flexible and has the potential for me to be my own boss! So there lay the beginning of my journey to becoming a physiotherapist.

Shortly after beginning the course, I began my own massage business- $20 dollar massages to friends so I could practice my newly attained skills, and also put myself through school. I’d gone from 6 years of supporting myself on full time wages, to very little work at all. My business grew rapidly, and my prices grew slowly as i gained more experience and skill.

Fast forward to my masters in physiotherapy when I started seeing my now husband. I was on track, focused and my massage business was paying the bills. I finished the degree, with a job ready to go. Life was great!

The next 3 years was a whirlwind. We travelled overseas, then we were married a few months later. By the end of that year, we purchased our home. 12 months to the day of  buying the house, our son Remy was born!

Now as a driven and focused woman that I tend to be, I had it all planned out. I would go on leave for 6 months and then return to work. No worries! Too easy right? I look back now and laugh. Returning to the workforce when Remy was only 6 months old was the most devastating thing I had to do! I never thought I would be so attached to the idea of spending as much time with my little man as I could. I realised that I didn’t want to have a baby for someone else to take care of him. Not that early, I just wanted to be with him.

Unfortunately, it was the choice I had to make, and we were lucky enough that my MIL was willing to care for Remy while I worked. But this defining moment in my life meant I needed to take action.

Which has led me to the current journey I am on of building an online empire that will give me the financial and time freedom I yearn for every time I walk out the door from my now 18 month old son. My new business venture needed to provide me with the finances to allow for time freedom, but also I wanted a vehicle to be able to help others do the same, whilst inspiring women everywhere to challenge their boundaries, while working towards their goals and dreams.

So here I am…. sharing with you…. this is just the beginning and I would love it if you would join me on this journey.

I would love to hear your thoughts, and experiences! Please share in the comments or send me an email 🙂

Happy Sunday

K x